Saturday, August 8, 2015

The Ones Who Must Not Be Left Behind


December 2013, we conducted a service activity in Home for the Aged in Quezon City. We had showcased the dances we know about Igorot, Maria Clara, Muslim and even Hip-hop. We annually do this kind of activity for those who are in needs. Some elderly there are abandoned by their own families, some have their reasons and some haven’t. After we performed our show, we are given a time to talk to some of them. A grandmother pulled me and said that I’m good at dancing, I was grateful to hear that. Then we talked for a while, she shared her story. She cried at me while telling her story, I didn’t handle not to cry too. I gave her a tetra pack juice to drink and to relive her somehow. I got sad when she told me that she was still in hope that her children will come back for her.
In that moment, I realized that we are there not only to showcase our performance but also to be the reliever of what they are struggling by listening to their stories and maybe lend some attention that their families didn’t give them. Some of them really enjoyed the show and some of them were crying after it. I asked some of them why were they crying. A grandmother answered me, “Miss ko na ang anak ko. Sabe niya babalikan niya ako.” “Lola, wag na po kayong umiyak, babalik din sila. Sa ngayun kame nalang po muna ang mga anak niyo”, I said to her and gave her tight hug. I really cried after that and ask myself, “Paano nila natitiis magulang nila? Grabe. Kung ako ang gagawa sa magulang ko nito di ko mapapatawad sarili ko.” After what I heard from them, I promised myself that I will never do that kind of actions to abandon my parents.
We visited their quarter’s area, boys were separated from girls. We gave them siopao and tetra pack juices, some of the elders were not able to watch our performance for they were already bedridden. They were already wearing diapers and are in cages. One of the caregivers there said that those who were in cages are the ones who have incontrollable manners and actions towards their roommates. Maybe they hurt or bullied them when the caregivers are not around. Caregivers are not highly paid in the institution; some of them were just volunteers. I am glad that still, there are people who are willing to help without any in return.
After all we did there; we were gathered by our head and congratulate every one of us. We were asked to give our experiences through the activity, I raised my hand. I told them that I got sad to see all those elders being abandoned by their loved ones. I also shared what I promised to myself, “Sir, kahit anong mangyare, hinding hindi ko gagawin sa magulang ko kung ano yung ginawa ng mga anak ng mga matatanda dito. Hinding hindi ko mapapatawad ang sarili ko na abandunahin ko yung mga taong nagpalaki sakin.” Everyone in the van agreed of what I’ve said. Some shared their insights about the institution and the way the elders were given proper care.

On our way home, deep within my thoughts, I am really sad to leave the people there. They were sweet elders although they can’t hear me when I talked to them. Some of them have already complications. I learned in this kind of service that whatever circumstances or problems you face; never ever leave someone to be able solves it. Leaving is not the solution, facing them is. 

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