"Everything that you've ever dreamed of, disappearing when you wake up. But there's nothing to be afraid of. Even when the night changes. " - Night Changes, One Direction
Have you ever been so excited to live a happy life with the people you love? Have you ever been so excited that you can't sleep the night before a big day? What if you wake up and everything has change? How would you accept the fact that everything you planned has been ruined?
"Change", one word that can literally ruin your day, but can also lightens up. For other people, to be able to cope up with the changes happening in their lives, the only way, is to change themselves. Of course, we don't like major changes for we are frightened of what is unknown.
We enjoy thinking or seeing things in the future. We may see ourselves to be successful ones, wearing things we don't have before, having our dream houses, or even live with our future partners. To be able to reach our goals, we must consider CHANGE in our expectations. Here are some steps on how to handle changes either major or minor ones.
According to what I've searched:
First, we must UNDERSTAND THE CHANGES THAT WILL ALWAYS HAPPEN.
Most of the time, we are unaware of it, as they do not affect us in a major way. An organization may shut down due to lack of profit for events or a house may be demolished because the owner can't present legal papers stating that the land is his. These circumstances may not affect you but other people may, these are major shifts in their lives.
Second is EXPECT TO ENJOY SOME CHANGES.
Changes are fun too. For example, for your patience for teaching students you may be given promotion or serve as an inspiration to other teachers or a person may give their love for you. These are the changes that directly affect you or some of the aspects in your life, yet they can be enjoyable.
Third, we must REALIZE THAT SOME CHANGES ARE GOING TO BE VERY UNEXPECTED.
Always, always and ALWAYS expect the unexpected. How? We must always remember that there are accidents. Things or actions that we didn't expect to happen. Pretty hard isn't it?
Fourth, we must understand that SOME CHANGES WILL BE A CHALLENGE.
Seems challenging right? Challenge in a way that it may test your faith, yourself, your family, friendships, relationships etc. These are the challenges that you can either rise or fall. Your attitude towards this new situation is very important. IF your approach to it is with fear, you may seem to have nervous actions. However, if you look at it in a positive way, such as an adventure, you are certain or probably to win at the end, even if you did some mistakes in the beginning. As long as you're willing to learn, you cannot go very far wrong.
Fifth, we must GROW WITH CHANGES.
Technology is advancing so quickly in fields those are unheard of, or unimaginable before. Those of us who were born more than half a century ago have had to contend with the advent of computers. Some people have chosen to ignore them, so that they do not, as they put it, even know where to switch it on, whereas others grasped them with both hands and reveled in the opportunities this new machine gave them to learn new skills and to surf the Internet in search of information, which was before only to be gained by going to libraries and searching, often in vain, through seemingly endless catalog lists.
Sixth, we must ACCEPT IT AS A NEW CHAPTER IN OUR LIFE.
A CHANGE, then, should be seen as a new chapter in your life, a fresh opportunity to gain knowledge or experience in a new area. And even be accepted as a chance to discover new, new places and new skills.
Seventh, THE KEY TO ACCEPTING CHANGE IS TO HAVE AN OPEN MIND AND TO ACCEPT EVERYTHING AS IT PRESENTS ITSELF.
There are things about which you may have strongly biased opinions. This is not a bad thing, depending upon your approach. Certain people can accept constructive criticism, whereas others will reject any criticism at all. If you are of the latter bent, you will have a very hard time adjusting to change, whereas people who accept constructive criticism can advance. Ensure that your criticism is constructive and presented in a non-judgmental manner, so that it is more acceptable to others. If you do not understand something, ask - and pay attention to the answers you receive: you just may be enlightened.
Eighth, IF YOU BELONG TO SUBCULTURE, TRY TO PUT NOTICE TO YOUR ARGUMENTS IN A COHERENT MANNER.
You may want to sit down, correlate and write down your feelings, explanations and so forth, so that you can present them in such a way that they do not sound as if you are reciting a rote-learned poem. Hearing about your particular proclivity, explained in a rational way, just might change the way in which your listeners think about it. It is a change from their way of thinking, remember, and they need to have it explained in way that they can understand.
Ninth, BE TOLERANT TO OF OTHERS.
Many people become members of, or adherents to, institutions which appear to have ideas and ideals that you may not understand, or about which you have received bad reports, or which might go against your creed or traditions, but that does not necessarily make them undesirable. We must understand what are their beliefs, arguments and practices.
Tenth, Change requires that you accept certain things with which you might not be familiar at present, but with which you can become comfortable once you are exposed to it, learn about it and perhaps even participate in it.
We must accept the facts about CHANGE, even if we don't like to. Of course, it's hard, but I'll assure you, all of these are going to be worth it.
And lastly, A GOOD MAXIM TO KEEP IN MIND IS THE OLD HIPPIE SAYING: "DON'T KNOCK IT UNTIL YOU HAVEN'T TRIED IT."
Changes are everywhere, if we learn to be friends with it, cope up with it, enjoy it, we can really learn from it. Changes may seem to be always negative, but it's up to those who accept it. YOLO, you only live once, but if you do it right, it is not just enough, but also worth it.
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